When I was young, one of my favorite TV shows was Bewitched. Oh how I wished I could twinkle my nose and have my chores disappear. Wave my hands and fix the furniture I broke when I jumped off the sofa and landed on the coffee table. I also wished my father’s belt would turn to a feather duster that night when I received my punishment for breaking the “expensive” table. If only Samantha could have come to my rescue that night.
My children love the Harry Potter movies. I know they too must wish they have a magic wand to solve the same issues I had when I was their age; chores, homework, peer pressure, sibling rivalry, parental rules. If only we all have magic wands to solve the nagging issues that we face daily.
As I stood in my kitchen this morning over the pile of dishes to be washed, the dogs to be walked, the summer programs to be planned, I found myself wishing I had a magical wand to transport myself from my kitchen to an island, on the beach. Oh how I wished that was possible.
I sometimes wonder how my mother did so much and has not spent a day in a psych ward. Seven children, no washing machine, dishwasher, microwave, no blackberry with planner, no slow cooker, no rice maker and certainly not an ipad. Yet, she did it all with not much complaining. Did she too wish she had a magical wand to help out?
Regardless of age, the human experience depends on, and is enriched by having support and help. We dream of a symbolic magic wand, but what we really seek is help for the things we feel overwhelmed by. Whether it’s with childcare, household chores, professional responsibilities, aging parents, illness, and life’s many decisions, knowing when to ask for help is a healthy approach to coping.
The expression “it takes a village” can be applied to not just child rearing, but to life in general. Asking for help, hiring help, it doesn’t matter, help comes in different forms. Hire a babysitter or ask a friend. Hire a housekeeper to clean the house and do the laundry. Ask the children to walk the dog and do the dishes. Call an agency to help with mom and dad, because you need a break. Lose the guilt to ask for help. We are not born with super human capabilities or a magical wand.
Know when to ask for help, it’s the best gift you can give yourself.
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